Attraction, Love, and emotional attachment are fun and can be a memor
able experience that could sweep you off your feet. However, the feeling of a breakup or detachment could tear you apart completely. Studies tell us that some people lose the battle to breakups, detachment and bereavement of their loved ones. Even though the recovery time varies from person to person, nonetheless, failure to recover may lead to depression, addiction and even suicide.
While no two breakups are exactly alike, the best and healthiest ways to grieve and move on tend to follow similar patterns. Here are the 9 simple and effective tips for recovery after a breakup.
- Don’t blame yourself
Self-guilt is a very deadly tool of grief and could make you get stuck in depression. With self-guilt comes low self-esteem! With low self-esteem comes depression! That might cause suicidal thoughts in your head.
But understanding that there are a lot of reasons why relationships fail and could not have been your fault, will change your mindset and speed up your recovery.
- Keep an Emotional and physical distance
Keeping a physical and emotional distance helps to weaken the bond that connects you and your ex. Constant contact with your ex can trigger a lot of old memories that is not good for your recovery.
I know its hard! You always want to know what your ex is doing or who he/she is with, right? Trust me, you don’t want to know for your own good.
- Pen it all on paper
In life each time we’re experiencing a difficult period, it always helps when we let out our emotions, which ease the burden on our mind. I can not think of a better way to do that other than in writing! A lot of great poems, songs and screenplay have been written during a high emotional period like a breakup. Such emotional write-up comes from the heart. Nevertheless, the easing of the burden helps to speed up the recovery process.
- Reduce any social media contact
Nowadays, the virtual world just like the physical world is very similar. So just like physical contact, being obsessed or spying your ex on social media is not good for your recovery process. I know its very tempting! So if you can’t stay clear your ex’s profile, you can simply block or unfriend your ex.
5.Spend more time to rediscover yourself
Most times, being in a relationship can take away some single life funs. Try to be more like your old self by engaging in the fun stuff you did & avoid anything to do with your ex as you clear your head.
- Talk to your friends and family
Sometimes, breakups can be very overwhelming, and it might seem that there is no way out. Or you may think your whole world is crashing! I know it hurts a lot! To tell the truth, seeking help from friends and family might be your lifesaver. They will support you throughout your recovery process and will help you to get through it. But first, it starts with you opening up to them!
- Explore nature and life
Most times, people find nature exploitation helpful. Spending time with nature will help you clear your head and makes you feel better emotionally. Going hiking, biking, climbing, diving…. etc. is a good and healthy distraction from your grief.
- Reflect on your past relationship
A feedback reflection on your old relationship will help you to improve yourself in your future relationship. Understanding what you did wrong or right will help you to be a better version of your self in the future.
For example, if your relationship fails because of infidelity, you can work on yourself or device a way to avoid the same thing from happening in your future relationship.
- Try dating again
Never give up! Never quit on yourself! That fact your previous relationships didn’t work out doesn’t mean the next won’t. So go out there and make it happen. Studies show that finding someone new will help you to get over your ex in no time. When the new person fills the void in your heart, the lonely feeling and the bonding with the old partner will start to fade.
It’s important to know that time heals all grief and heartbreaks. Even though it may seem so hard to deal with initially, but trust me following the tips will speed up your recovery process.